Bethany Joy Lenz Recalls 'Rude Awakening' After Leaving Cult: 'How Do I Just Go Back to the Beginning?'

Mar. 15, 2025

Bethany Joy Lenz attends the 47th Annual Gracie Awards Gala at Beverly Wilshire, A Four Seasons Hotel on May 24, 2022 in Beverly Hills, California.Photo:Rodin Eckenroth/Getty

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Bethany Joy Lenzis looking back at the “rude awakening” she experienced after leaving a small, ultra-Christian cult in 2012.

“There’s no chance that I’ll fall on my face and look stupid and feel stupid and hurt myself and hurt other people because I’m following all the rules, which is why it was such a rude awakening when I left,” she explained, adding that her time in the cult was “the biggest fall ever.”

Lenz’s departure allowed her to embrace a journey of self-discovery for the first time.

“It’s like if I had been brought up in an environment where everything was laid out for me, I did everything everybody told me to do, I dressed perfectly, I showed up everywhere, I knew all the right things to say,” she told hostPatrick Custer. “And I found myself all of a sudden in the middle of my life going, I don’t even know who I am.”

The actress shared that she realized she had lived a facade, explaining, “Everything around me is a set. It’s all paper mache. And how do I just go back to the beginning?”

“I’m going to start out in my car,” she said. “I’ll live in my car. I’m going to show up every day for myself, for the people I know. I’m going to peel off the costume, take off the makeup and just start from scratch and figure out who I am. How do I like my eggs?…What music do I listen to? How do I want to communicate with people? How do I like to be communicated with?”

She continued, “I mean, it was back to bare, bare, bare bones of reconstructing, like, who am I?”

Bethany Joy Lenz attends the Los Angeles Premiere of Netflix’s New Film “Blonde” at TCL Chinese Theatre on September 13, 2022 in Hollywood, California.Axelle/Bauer-Griffin/FilmMagic

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More than a decade after leaving the cult, Lenz has had time to work through her emotions and wants to “live from instinct because that’s the one thing I’ve been missing in my life is living from instinct and trusting that there’s a safety net of love to catch me when I fall on my face, which I will.”

“I know this is a season and I want to approach it with maturity, but I do need to just be free,” she adds.

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Lenz previously revealed during an interview onGood Morning Americain October that heleft the cult for her daughter Rosie, who shares with the group leader’s son, musician Michael Galeotti.

“I left because of my daughter,” she shared onGMA. “I left because it was time.”

Lenz continued to recall her exact thought process at the time, sharing, “I remember having this thought, I said, ‘I don’t know what’s wrong with me and why I will allow myself to be treated this way, but there’s no way in hell I’m going to allow this to happen to her. We gotta get out.'”

source: people.com