Groom Falls in Love with His Wedding Designer, Calls Off Nuptials, and Leaves Bride Before Tying the Knot

Mar. 15, 2025

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A man is asking for advice after he left his fiancée for their wedding designer.

When the former couple was planning their wedding, their party planner introduced them to a designer who the groom-to-be instantly fell for.

“I knew from the moment I met him that I shouldn’t be marrying my fiancée,” he wrote.

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Although he “loved” his fiancée, the groom realized he “wasn’t being true” to himself. To explore his new romantic feelings for another man, he decided to secretly spend “lots of time” with the designer.

“My wife got suspicious and we broke up before we’d spent too much money on the wedding that was never going to happen,” he said.

The bride felt blindsided. She thought they had their “whole lives planned out.”

“We discussed everything,” the ex-groom admitted. “We knew how many kids we wanted and where we wanted to live.”

After their split, the bride “refused” to speak to the man. Eventually, she moved on, marrying and having children with someone else.

Meanwhile, the advice-seeker’s life “got complicated.”

After he dated the designer for a while, they called it quits. “I stayed in my lane for years, looking for Mr. Right, but never found him.”

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Last year, the man met a widowed woman with two children who “stole [his] heart.” He was honest with her from the start, and so far they’ve had a “good” life together. However, life gets uncomfortable whenever he sees his ex-fiancée.

“In the past two months, I’ve bumped into my ex three times and each time is more awkward than the last. Why can’t I just be civil and friendly? Why do I freeze?” he wrote. “I need help.”

In response, Lisi said that “life is a journey,” which means there will be ups and downs.

“It’s not about labels, gender or sexuality,” she replied. “Living a good life is being true to yourself, surrounding yourself with people who love you and whom you love, laughter, joy and finding your own path.”

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Lisi was also sympathetic toward the ex. While the man’s first relationship “wasn’t meant to be,” Lisi advised him to put himself in his ex’s shoes and imagine the situation from her perspective.

“From her viewpoint, I imagine she feels you were living a lie and then cheated on her with a man. I understand how that would be very upsetting to her,” she said. “No one likes to be dumped or cheated on.”

She continued: “So to see you years later with another woman and children is probably very confusing for her and maybe still painful even after all these years. I suggest you find your inner strength and say hello. Cut through the small talk and say, ‘I know this is probably confusing for you and I’d love the chance to tell you my story.’ "

Regardless of whether or not the ex is receptive toward the man’s attempt at conversation, Lisi said that any outcome is better than ignoring one another, which is “childish and immature.”

source: people.com