I Tried Manifesting Love — and Then Met My Perfect Match

Mar. 15, 2025

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We are magic. With that power comes the ability to make anything happen, including love.

When I first discovered the book and moviePractical Magic, I listened carefully to all the lessons the Owens sisters and aunts taught each other. One particular moment is when a young Sally crafts the spell called ”Amas Veritas,” in which she’s summoning true love.

She says, “He will hear my call a mile away. He will whistle my favorite song. He can ride a pony backward. He can flip pancakes in the air. He’ll be marvelously kind. And his favorite shape will be a star. And he’ll have one green eye and one blue.” Sally adds, “The guy I dreamed of doesn’t exist.”

Contrary to Sally’s words, he does. And he comes at the climax of the movie to charm her heart. The words she states conjure Officer Gary Hallet — yes, he arrives at an inconvenient time, but he has the attributes Sally willed into existence as a child.

Being a romantic at heart, I followed in Sally’s footsteps and what I came to see is that the power of intention is accurate — especially when it comes to love.

I was obsessed with the gameMASHbecause I could daydream about my future and leave my fate up to chance. In my teenage years, I’d doodle and journal in my notebook while fantasizing about my future mate. I wasn’t clear about what I wanted because I was inexperienced in relationships. But I put down a few notes of my likes and dislikes.

As the years progressed, I forgot about my little manifestation book. One day, while cleaning, I came across it. I laughed at how silly my dating aspirations were in the past but decided to make additions to what I wanted and needed. After hours of deep thinking, I made a list of 500 qualities. As I began meditating on these characteristics, I met many people that came close but the vibe wasn’t right.

Unlike Sally, I had to kiss many frogs until I found a fantastic match. This person was different from anyone I had met. They had their unique personality that blended with what I was calling in. It is a fairytale; however, it took time.

The one thing I noticed was that my relationship with myself changed through my journey and became stronger. I knew what I was OK with and how to let go when I wasn’t treated well. As they say, the most important relationship is the one with yourself, so it should be No. 1 on every manifestation list. Then, focus on yourself about love.

It can take time and energy to manifest love but it worked for me in the end. Before moving forward with your own manifestation of love, it’s best to seek advice from an expert as everyone’s experience is different.

Luckily, I reached out to a handful of experts who can aid in the manifestation journey. Here are the pro tips they shared with me that you can use to get the relationship of your dreams.

Embrace your vision of love

According to Chandler Stroud, host ofThe Healing Heroes Podcast, “Manifestation is about collaborating with the universe vs. telling it what to do!"

Stroud notes that “the best way to manifest is to have a clear vision for how you want to feel — what is it that the love you desire will ultimately provide? Is it a sense of peace? More excitement?  Connectedness? Freedom?”

“Focus on thefeelingand then let the universe work to deliver you to that place however it intends to,” Stroud continues. “Your job is to simply keep the vision alive and trust that everything is unfolding exactly as it is supposed to.”

When it comes to manifestation, the more specific you are, the greater the chances of turning your expectations into reality. You have to be concise and straightforward about your goals to achieve what you want.

Be confident and bold

“Becoming the embodiment of love in all ways is, in some sense, the highest goal for any manifestation of love,” Snider notes.

Stroud adds that we should “Continue to practice self-compassion in whatever way that feels most authentic to you. I’m a big believer in doing something for your mind, your body, and your spirit every single day since all three have unique needs but are interconnected.”

When it comes to manifestation, anything is possible if you have faith in yourself and your actions.

Astrology can help set your goals in motion

Snider suggests using thephases of the moon, which focuses on love and emotion, to help set your goals into motion.

“If you’re ready for romantic love and have a strong sense of what you’re looking for in a partner, write all their ideal traits on a slip of paper during the new moon,” Snider says. “Get specific (really specific and don’t overlook basic things, too). Be wise with your words and intentions. Over the course of the month, during the waxing moon, focus on and envision this person in your actual life — make them real in your mind, how they would fit into your life or what your life would look and feel like with them in it.”

Manifesting and astrology can work in conjunction in the sense that there are astrological elements you can tap into to help boost your intentions. While the moon phase is a great tool for manifesting love, you can also utilize the days of the week for manifestation as each day is associated with a planet that aligns with it.

Be open to the universe

Finally, Stroud says, “It all begins with you. You are capable of creating the life and love story of your dreams, and you may be unknowingly holding yourself back.”

“The best advice I can give anyone looking for love is to start within,” Stroud continues. “First you must get curious about yourself, be courageous enough to unearth what needs to be felt, and be kind to yourself in the process.”

source: people.com