Kristin Cavallari Says Cutting Her 'Narcissistic Father' Out Was the 'Last Thing I Needed to Do in My Healing Journey’

Mar. 15, 2025

Kristin Cavallari in Nashville in 2024.Photo:Jason Davis/Getty

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Kristin Cavallarisays that her relationship with her “narcissistic father” led her to experiment with drugs and alcohol at a young age — and cutting him out of her life is “the best thing I’ve done.”

During an appearance on the Dec. 30 episode ofBunnie XO’s podcast,Dumb Blonde,Cavallari, now 37, said “For so long, I was kind of ashamed of my childhood and my partying ways and stuff, and now I just fully embrace it.”

Kristin Cavallari shared photos of her father on Instagram.Kristin Cavallari/Instagram

Kristin Cavallari/Instagram

TheUncommon Jamesfounder said that her boyfriend at the time would “drive his golf cart over to my house and pick me up,” saying they were “just animals.”

“My escape was to start drinking and doing drugs, and the only way I found a connection was with my boyfriend. I didn’t have a connection at home. And so that was where I found it was with my boyfriend and through all of my friends.”

When Bunnie asked, ”Was it just a rough relationship with the parents?” Cavallari explained, “My dad is a narcissist. Typical narcissist.”

“There’s so many layers to it. It’s so complicated…. It really is disgusting,” said Cavallari, who moved in with her father when she was a high school freshman. “I actuallycut my dad outof my life a couple years ago, which is the best thing I’ve ever done, quite honestly. “

“I had anarcissistic dadgrowing up, and then parents' divorce, stepfamilies, some sexual trauma with a couple different guys in my life, and just, you know, just like one thing after another,” she said, explaining that she was “just looking for any kind of connection, an outlet as well. So that was why I went down the path that I did.”

Going no contact with her father,The Hillsalum said, was “the last thing I needed to do in my healing journey” — although she did worry she was going to have “bad karma” from severing ties with her father.

“I actually had a medium say to me, she was like, ’No, actually, that was what you came to do in this lifetime, was to be able to stand up for yourself and set boundaries and cut him out of your life.’ “

“That made me feel so much better. Just validated everything,” she said. And these days, “I’m about to turn 38, and I finally feel like I’m in a good place with everything and have a good handle on it.”

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