Nick and Vanessa Lachey Reveal They Have a Scheduled 'Sex Day' Each Week: 'That's Our Life'

Mar. 15, 2025

Nick and Vanessa Lachey on the cover of ‘Brides’ magazine.Photo:Jonny Marlow/BRIDES

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NickandVanessa Lacheyare sharing their secrets to a healthy relationship.

The couple offered insight into keeping the spark alive in their 13-year marriage for an exclusive interview withBRIDESfor a February cover story.

With two busy work schedules — including a hosting gig together onLove Is Blind— andthree childrenat home, Vanessa, 44, revealed that she decided to dedicate a day of the week to being intimate.

“He’s like, ‘What, schedule a sex day?'” she said of Nick’s reaction. “It sounds weird when you say that, so we decided: Wednesday—hump day.”

Nick and Vanessa Lachey on the cover of ‘Brides’ magazine.Jonny Marlow/BRIDES

Though theNCIS: Hawai’istar admitted they have fallen out of the routine aftermoving back to Los Angeles from Hawaiiin August, Vanessa said she hopes to get back into it soon.

“Happy hump day and calendar dump day,” Nick, 51, joked.

The duo, who hostLove Is BlindandThe Ultimatumtogether, shared that another trick behind their happy marriage is couples counseling, which Vanessa said she is outspoken about.

“It’s nice for them to see that, yes, we’ve been together 19 years, married for 13, and we are seeing a therapist, and we still have problems,” she explained. “It’s really important to have a third-person perspective that’s an unbiased opinion.”

Nick went on to note that having issues in a near-two-decade-long relationship is normal, and explained his opinion on what it means to find “the one.”

“Anything that’s worth having takes work,” he said. “To me, that’s a cornerstone of life, and marriage is no different. There’s no shame in that.”

He continued: “There’s no perfect person. There’s just your person.”

Nick and Vanessa Lachey pose for ‘Brides’ magazine.Jonny Marlow/BRIDES

Nick and Vanessa tied the knot in 2011 after five years of dating. They share sons Camden, 12, and Phoenix, 8, and daughter Brooklyn, 10.

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In July,Nick opened up to PEOPLEabout being intentional in his marriage to Vanessa, saying that making time for one another is a non-negotiable.

“Sometimes you have to be deliberate. You have to make deliberate attempts because the spontaneity, the romance, whatever you want to call it that existed pre-kids, it just can’t exist the same way,” he said at the time. “And I would argue that it shouldn’t exist the same way because your priority should be your kid, but you have to also make time to prioritize each other.”

“And if you lose sight of that and lose track of that, then I think that’s when you can get into some trouble,” he continued. “So make it deliberate. There’s no shame in that. You’ve got to make it deliberate. Make time for each other, make it a scheduled thing if you have to, but make sure you give that to each other.”

source: people.com