Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee's Relationship Timeline

Mar. 15, 2025

Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee in 1996.Photo: Jeffrey Mayer/WireImage

The lives ofPamela AndersonandTommy Leewill forever be intertwined.

The pair famouslywed on a beachin Cancun in February 1995, just days after they began seeing each other. “It really was love at first sight,” theBaywatchstar told PEOPLE in 2015. “I only knew him four days before I married him.”

They soon welcomed sonBrandon Thomas Leein May 1996 and thenDylan Jagger Leein December 1997. Just a few months later, however, Anderson filed for divorce.

“Pamela and I were fighting all the time,” Lee wrote in his 2001 band memoir,The Dirt: Confessions of the World’s Most Notorious Rock Band, perRolling Stone. “Trying to raise our children, continue the careers that consumed us, make a new relationship work and deal with the non-stop barrage of bulls— in the press was more of a challenge than we ever could have expected.”

In the years since their split, the actress and the rocker reunited many times before finally going their separate ways in 2008.

In February 2022, Hulu released the limited seriesPam & Tommy, which depicted the early days of their marriage and the sex tape scandal — though Anderson was not involved in the project. Less than a year later, Netflix released Anderson’s documentaryPamela, a love story.

Here’s a complete timeline of Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee’s relationship.

December 31, 1994: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee meet on New Year’s Eve

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ThePlayboymodel and the musician first crossed paths at a club on New Year’s Eve in 1994. Lee recalled their meeting in Mötley Crüe’s autobiography,The Dirt. “Suddenly, a waitress came over and said, ‘Tommy, here’s a shot of Goldschläger. It’s for you, from Pamela Anderson,’ " the drummer recalled.

He continued, “She was wearing all white, her hair was the most perfect shade of blond I had ever seen, her teeth practically glowed through her lips when she laughed, and she stood out so radiantly from everyone around her that it seemed like a beam of black light was shining on her from above.”

After introducing himself, Lee said he slid over Anderson’s seated friends to get to her. “Then I grabbed her face and just licked the side of it, from chin to temple. … She f—— laughed and, without missing a beat, turned away and licked the face of the girl next to her. Everyone started passing licks around the table.”

Their night together ended when Lee walked the actress to her friend’s car, asked for her phone number and kissed her goodnight.

February 1995: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee have their first date in Cancun

According to Lee, the pair spent six weeks talking on the telephone before Anderson finally agreed to hang out. But instead of meeting up, she left for a photo shoot in Cancun the following day. But Lee was persistent.“He found out I was at a photo shoot down there andhe followed me down,” Anderson toldLarry Kingin 2002. “The first thing he said to me was ‘I’m going to marry you.’ And I said, ‘What, no one’s ever said that to me in a first sentence.’ "

Lee was barred from entering her hotel at the Ritz-Carlton due to the hotel’s dress code, so the pair had their first date at a local bar.

February 18, 1995: Tommy Lee proposes to Pamela Anderson

The Mötley Crüe drummer popped the question just three days into their impromptu fling. “That night at a disco called La Boom, I took off my pinky ring, put it on her finger and asked her to marry me,” the rock star recalled inThe Dirt. “She said yes, hugged me and stuck her tongue down my throat.”

February 19, 1995: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee get married

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The pair wed on a beach in Cancun less than 24 hours later. “We asked the hotel to find someone to perform a marriage ceremony. We gave blood, sniffed out a marriage license and were on the beach getting married before the day was over,” wrote Lee inThe Dirt.

Anderson later told King in a 2002 interview, “I really always had such a fairy tale idea what a wedding would be, that I’d meet somebody, fall in love and it would just be very romantic, and it would be love at first sight. And I had all these things that I wanted it to be. And he chased me down to Cancun, and I just thought it was romantic.”

Summer 1995: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee go on their honeymoon

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PerThe Dirt, Anderson told Lee she was four weeks pregnant just 10 days after Lee’s 33rd birthday party in October.

October 1995: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee’s safe is stolen from their home

The pair didn’t notice the safe was gone until two months after Gauthier’s alleged burglary. (Gauthier was never charged with a crime in connection with the tape.)

January 29, 1996: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee attend the American Music Awards

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March 1996: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee take legal action over stolen sex tape

Private photos of Anderson and details of the sex tape were later published inPenthouse’s June issue.

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Anderson and Lee welcomed their first child, son Brandon Thomas Lee, on May 6, 1996.

November 1996: Pamela Anderson files for divorce from Tommy Lee

TheHome Improvementalum filed for divorce from the rocker in November 1996, according to theLos Angeles Times. However, the filing was later dropped after the couple got back together.

December 1996: Pamela Anderson moves back in with Tommy Lee

Lee also released a statement at the time, per theWashington Post, which read: “All the ridiculous speculations on our marriage are false. I’m in recovery for alcohol abuse, and my wife is supporting me through a very tough time.”

In the spring of 1997, the rock star and the actress were expecting their second child.

December 1997: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee settle another court case over stolen sex tape

The couple settled a lawsuit they had against the Internet Entertainment Group for posting their sex tape on the internet in December 1997, theLos Angeles Timesreported.

She also noted that not only had she never seen the video, she “made not one dollar” from its distribution.

The couple’s second son, Dylan Jagger Lee, was born in December 1997at Anderson’s Malibu home.

February 24, 1998: Tommy Lee is arrested in a domestic dispute with Pamela Anderson

On Feb. 24, 1998, Lee was arrested at the couple’s California home and charged with felony spousal abuse and child abuse, per theLos Angeles Times, though the latter [charge] was eventually dropped. Lee pled no contest to the matter in April 1998.

At the time, Anderson’s publicist released a statement, saying, “Pamela intends to vigorously cooperate in the prosecution of her husband, and is looking to the district attorney and all other appropriate authorities to protect her and her children.”

February 26, 1998: Pamela Anderson files for divorce from Tommy Lee again

May 20, 1998: Tommy Lee is sentenced to six months in jail

Lee was sentenced to jail for six months over charges of spousal abuse on May 20, 1998, theAssociated Pressreported at the time. He was also sentenced to three years probation and ordered to stay at least 100 yards away from Anderson.

While Anderson was not present in court, she made a plea through her lawyer asking that her husband receive counseling and probation instead of jail time ahead of his sentencing.

December 16, 1998: Pamela Anderson shares an update on Tommy Lee

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Anderson opened up toJanemagazineabout the progress Lee had made as a result of his court-ordered anger management classes in December 1998. “It’s not all roses or anything, because there’s a lot of pain that Tommy and I need to resolve,” she wrote. “But seeing my two little boys so happy and playing with their daddy, it’s just beautiful to have our family back together.”

May 5, 1999: Pamela Anderson kisses Tommy Lee onstage at the World Music Awards

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By 1999, the duo shared a kiss at the 1999 World Music Awards in Monte Carlo, where Anderson was presenting.

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2000: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee break up again

By the summer of 2000, however, the duo had split once more, with Anderson taking up with Swedish modelMarcus Schenkenberg. Anderson and Schenkenberg would later get engaged but ultimately call it quits in 2001.

May 8, 2005: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee snuggle up at their son’s baseball game

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After beingspotted kissingin January of that year, the pairshowed a bit of PDAwhile cheering their son Dylan on at a baseball game in 2005. “The boys miss Pam and me together,” Lee told PEOPLE at the time. “When we’re together, they’re so happy. At the end of the day, that’s truly what my heart wants. I want us all to be together.”

June 30, 2005: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee hold hands at a restaurant opening

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PEOPLE reported that the pairheld hands and spent the night togetherwhile attending the opening of Rokbar in Los Angeles. PalsDave NavarroandCarmen Electrawere also in attendance.

July 2005: Pamela Anderson says she’s “not engaged” to Tommy Lee

After Anderson joined Lee and their sons to Hawaii in the summer of 2005, the actressshut down rumorsthat she and the rocker were engaged. “I am not engaged to Tommy Lee,” she wrote on her website. “We are friendly, we’re family … but that is not the truth. I am not getting married … Period.”

August 14, 2005: Tommy Lee roasts Pamela Anderson during her Comedy Central special

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The drummer performed a monologueat his ex-wife’s Comedy Central roasting special in August 2005. In his speech, he joked, “OK, now for the real reason I came here tonight. To honor my beautiful, talented compassionate, blonde ex-wife. Unfortunately,Heather Locklearcouldn’t be here tonight.”

Later that month, Lee told PEOPLE, “We’re crazy in love. We’re going to take things slowly and see where they go.”

July 2, 2007: Tommy Lee helps Pamela Anderson celebrate her 40th birthday

For theBarb Wirestar’s 40th birthday, Lee joined her at anexclusive soirée at Planet Hollywoodin Las Vegas before getting cozy again at an even more intimate gathering at the hotel later that evening.

“They were definitely close to each other, cuddling and being quite affectionate,” a source told PEOPLE. “They clearly love each other and have tremendous passion for each other.”

June 13, 2008: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee get back together

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Lee confirmed that he and Anderson weregiving their relationship another gotoRolling Stonein June 2008. “We’ve only given it a try 800 times — 801, here we go,” Lee said.

The Methods of Mayhem musician also revealed that Anderson, Brandon and Dylan were living with him. “Pamela and the kids have moved in with me. It’s awesome. It’s definitely working.”

August 2, 2009: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee are spotted kissing in Vegas

August 2015: Pamela Anderson calls Tommy Lee the love of her life

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Anderson opened up about the depth of her love for Lee in August 2015. “There was Tommy and then there was nobody else,” she toldPEOPLE. “He was the love of my life.”

She also addressed their relationship status, saying, “There’s a connection there that will always be. We’re good friends, we’re getting better at co-parenting our kids. He’s such a supporter of mine and I’m really happy we’re on such great terms.”

September 22, 2015: Pamela Anderson says she’s “never been out of love” with Tommy Lee

Anderson opened up about her feelings for her children’s father while discussing their united front as co-parents toHoward SterninSeptember 2015. “I’ve never been out of love with Tommy,” she shared. “We probably should’ve stuck it out. … At the time, it was all this craziness going on, we had all those people following us around, we were married young, married quick, had babies right away.”

September 30, 2015: Pamela Anderson and Tommy Lee pose for photos together

The former couple were photographed hanging out together atPETA’s 35th Anniversary Galaon Sept. 30, 2015.

February 14, 2018: Tommy Lee gets engaged to Brittany Furlan

After meeting the Vine star on Raya in 2017, Lee proposed toBrittany Furlanon Valentine’s Day in 2018. The couple tied the knot exactly one year later.

March 2018: Pamela Anderson opens up about her domestic dispute with Tommy Lee

March 8, 2018: Pamela Anderson calls Tommy Lee “a disaster”

May 21, 2020: Pamela Anderson addresses her sex tape with Tommy Lee

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September 12, 2021: Tommy Lee talks about upcoming Hulu seriesPam & Tommy

He added, “I think a lot of people would think it’s one thing, but it’s really about privacy and how things got crazy then. There’s different laws now.”

November 5, 2021: Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson reunite at son Brandon’s fashion launch

February 2, 2022:Pam & Tommypremieres on Hulu

In February 2022, Hululaunched its eight-episode seriesabout the theft of the couple’s sex tape. Anderson did not endorse the show, with a source telling PEOPLE that it had stirred upold emotionsfor theChicagoactress.

“After the tape was made public, it was a very traumatizing situation and it’s unfair that she is being re-subjected to this trauma, like reopening a wound,” the source said.

The insider added, “This was a very traumatic time of her life. She’s a really good person and I think all she’s really ever wanted was to be married and have a partner and have a nice life.”

March 2, 2022: Pamela Anderson announces an upcoming Netflix documentary about her life

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On March 2, 2022, Anderson, who was then making her Broadway debut as Roxie inChicago,posted her first — and only —Instagram photo, which featured a hand-written note from the star on Netflix stationery. “My life,” it read. “A thousand imperfections. A million misperceptions. Wicked, wild and lost. Nothing to live up to — I can only surprise you — not a victim, but a survivor and alive tell to real story. Love, Pamela.”

January 18, 2023: Pamela Anderson says her relationship with Tommy Lee was the only time she was “ever truly in love”

In her memoir,Love, Pamela, Andersonwrote in detail about her marriage to Lee. She also shared that their relationship was the only time she was “ever truly in love.”

TheBaywatchstar remembered fondly that the couple “just wanted to have babies and be together forever” before the sex tape scandal changed everything.

“It ruined lives, starting with our relationship — and it’s unforgivable that people, still to this day, think they can profit from such a terrible experience, let alone a crime,” Anderson wrote.

She went on to divulge that the couple’s “hell” truly began in 1998 when Lee assaulted her.

“The divorce from Tommy was the hardest, lowest, most difficult point of my life,” theBarb Wirestar wrote. “I was crushed. I still couldn’t believe that the person I loved the most was capable of what had happened that night. We were both devastated, but I had to protect my babies.”

January 25, 2023: Pamela Anderson says she’s glad Tommy Lee and Brittany Furlan Lee are happy

While chatting onThe Howard Stern Show, Anderson told the host that she and Tommy still “text here and there” but that she respects his marriage with Furlan.

“She’s good to him and I totally support thatand think that’s great,” she said. “[I’m] just glad he’s happy and has someone in his life.”

January 31, 2023: Pamela Anderson’s memoir reveals that she didn’t know Tommy Lee’s last name when they got married

Anderson’s memoir,Love, Pamela, revealed that shedidn’t know Lee’s last namewhen they eloped in Mexico.

“On the flight home, I asked him what our last name was, and he said, ‘Lee,’ " the actress wrote. “I said, ‘Oh, I thought it was Tommy Lee … something. Jones?’ "

January 9, 2025: Pamela Anderson reveals she and Tommy Lee aren’t on the best terms

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During aninterview with Andy Cohen, Anderson spoke candidly about her relationship with Lee, revealing that the exes aren’t on the best terms.

“We used to talk a lot more. Not recently, unfortunately. I wish we did have a better rapport right now,” she shared. “It’ll be okay, eventually. It’s just kind of a moment right now.”

source: people.com