Remi Bader Says Past Relationship ‘Trauma’ Impacted Decision to Move to New Apartment: ‘This Is My Space’

Mar. 15, 2025

Remi Bader at the premiere of “Wicked” in Los Angeles 2024.Photo:Gilbert Flores/Variety via Getty

Gilbert Flores/Variety via Getty

Remi Baderis getting real about a past romance.

The content creator, known for her transparency on social media about topics such as body image and mental health, is opening up about another personal matter: relationships.

In a new video posted onTikTok, Bader, 29, shared a “life update” with her 2 million-plus followers about her decision to change apartments in New York City, explaining what impacted her relocation and how she’s been feeling since the move.

Remi Bader apartment move.Remi Bader/Instagram

Remi Bader/Instagram

“I don’t want to talk about it anymore because it feels like another lifetime ago. Eight, nine months ago,” the social media star said ofher March breakup with Postellafter two years of dating. “I know I can’t be in this apartment because I just can’t,” she recalls, thinking of when they split.

“And the trauma and things that went on in that apartment, I just knew I wanted to leave,” Bader added. Despite her interest in moving out, however, she first considered advice her mother had given her after dealing with a difficult split of her own.

Bader said her mother’s first marriage “was with some asshole who cheated on her,” calling her “a queen” because she left immediately. “She always said, ‘That was my apartment. He lived with me and I’m not ever letting a man make me move or get out of my comfort zone.’ "

“And I always appreciated that,” Bader said of her mother’s mindset. “So my mom was always very much like, ‘Don’t move.’ " While the creator moved on with her life, “thriving” and “traveling” in the months that followed her breakup, she said she was still sad “here and there.”

Bader added, “But every time I would go back to that apartment, I would be so sad. It would literally bring me back to this sad place like the breakup literally just happened.” She then questioned why she was putting herself in a “bad situation” when it was “no longer” about her ex.

“It was about me now and about my mental health,” she continued, though revealed she had already signed the lease for another year right before her breakup. Bader then credited the mold in her apartment for basically forcing her out, calling it a “blessing in disguise.”

Remi Bader attends the Skims NYC store opening in December 2024.TheStewartofNY/GC Images

TheStewartofNY/GC Images

Bader said she has “moved on” and doesn’t feel that “same sadness” anymore. “I just felt held back in that apartment and I only felt that sadness when I was in there.” She then spoke about the positive changes she’s experienced in her day-to-day in the two to three months since moving.

Now, Bader said she’d been getting to go outside more, walk more, explore new restaurants in the city, spend more time with friends and cook more at home, too. “Such a nice feeling to feel like this is my space and my place. And it’s new and it’s fresh,” she said.

Remi Bader attends the 2024 CFDA Awards in NYC in October 2024.Taylor Hill/WireImage

Taylor Hill/WireImage

This isn’t the first time Bader has opened up about her most recent relationship since they split. In November, she announced that she was moving and recounted a few of the hardships she was facing when thinking about her past romance.

“I feel like I’ve had the best memories in the apartment… but I’ve also had like the worst, like most traumatic moments of my life in this apartment and I think it’s time to go,” Bader, in tears, said in the clip.

“It’s been nine months and I’m actually feeling like the happiest version of myself that I’ve almost ever been,” she said at the time.

source: people.com