Tyler Perry Reflects on 'Effects of Trauma' and His Recent 'Intensive Therapy' in Heartbreaking Speech at Paley Honors

Mar. 15, 2025

Tyler Perry attends the Paley Honors Fall Gala at the Beverly Wilshire hotel in Beverly Hills, California, on Dec. 4, 2024.Photo:Leon Bennett/FilmMagic

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Tyler Perrytook the opportunity to “go deep” into his history as he accepted the Paley Honors Award on Wednesday, Dec. 4.

The actor and filmmaker gave a passionate speech that touched on his journey from “childhood trauma” as he was honored during thePaley Honors Fall Galaat the Beverly Wilshire Hotel in Beverly Hills, California.

“It’s been 15 years, almost to the day,that she passed, sothis time of year is really, really difficult for me,” he explained. “When he showed me that picture, I want to apologize to you guys because I lost it. I couldn’t even finish the press line. But I’m here.”

Perry went on to reveal that recently, at age 54, “I did something for the first time in my life: I went into this intensive therapy in Arizona. And being in that moment in Arizona, I was able to really start to deal with something: the effects of trauma in my life.”

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Tyler Perry and his mother Willie Maxine Perry in Hollywood, California, on Feb. 21, 2006.Frazer Harrison/Getty

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TheMadeafranchisecreator said that he was once “suicidal” and that his “earliest memory” was as a toddler, “being very young [and visiting] jail, with my mother and my sisters behind bars.”

“I didn’t even know what this memory was until my aunt told me about my mother trying to leave my father. And we were driving to California from Louisiana in her car, and it was in his name,” Perry said. “So he reported the car stolen, and we all were arrested and sat in the jail, waiting for him to come.”

The New Orleans native recalled being a “little boy, watching this man beat my mother all the way back to Louisiana,” with one of his earliest memories being “hiding under the porch, waiting” for his mother to come home because his father “had beaten me bloody.”

In another incident, Perry said he had a science teacher who “hated” him in middle school: “I didn’t know why he hated me, but I was sitting in the room, and I really leaning in and paying attention. He was like, ‘Why are you looking at me that like that? You don’t intimidate me.’ "

Tyler Perry as a child.Courtesy Tyler Perry

Perry remembered talking about his pet hamster with his classmates one day and his teacher telling him, " ‘No, Black kids don’t have a hamster. You don’t have a hamster. Bring it to school.’ "

“So I brought the hamster to school, and all the kids were fawning over how cute he was. Buddy was his name,” theDivorce in the Blackwriter-director said. “The teacher looks at me, and he says, ‘Can I dissect him?’ My little innocent boy self asked, ‘Will he live?’ And he said, ‘No.’ "

“All the kids are putting pressure on me, and I said, ‘Okay,’ " Perry continued. “So I tried to go to the back of the room, and he’s like, ‘No, no, no. Stay up here.’ So I watched him put his chloroform on Buddy and kill him in front of me.”

“It was a memory that I didn’t even know was there until Iwas in this therapy session,” he said. “I saw myself walking home with this empty cage and realizing that no one asked me what happened or why the cage was empty. Not one person in my life.”

“So I survived that and forgot all about it, growing up at a time where there was an AIDS pandemic,” Perry went on, of another challenge he faced. “I would go to church every Sunday, and many of the men in my choir would be dead every Sunday.”

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Tyler Perry attends the Paley Honors Fall Gala at the Beverly Wilshire hotel in Beverly Hills, California, on Dec. 4, 2024.Leon Bennett/FilmMagic

“Or being stopped and frisked and slammed to the ground, just because I was Black and big, and the police were corrupt,” he added. “But I survived, and I’m here. So I think that’s enough to allow myself to be celebrated.”

Despitethe difficulties Perry endured, the people who hurt him “did not steal my compassion” or “rob me of my heart and my care for others, and they could not grip away my ability to heal,” he said.

“So to everyone in this room, as you live your life, as you go from day to day, no matter what you’re going through, I don’t care how bad it gets in the world, in this business. It’s tough. But I want you to know something: Don’t let anybody steal your ability to heal,” Perry continued.

“And I can tell you, at 55 years old, I am the freest version of myself that I’ve ever been,” he said. “I have turned toward all of that pain, threw my arms wide open, embraced every bit of it, stared the shame, went down in it, and took the power out of it so that I could heal. And I would challenge each and every one of you to do that, as well.”

“I want tospread as much joy and goodas I can,” he said. “I want to make my mother proud, and I want to makemy sonproud of his father — something that I was never able to be of the man who raised me.”

“So I want to thank the Paley Center for this moment, this opportunity, this award. And I want to thank everybody here that showed up for me as a man,” Perry added. “This moment represents people asking me, ‘Why is your cage empty?’ So I thank you, and I bless you and I appreciate it. God bless you. Thank you.”

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