Who Is Ubah Hassan's Boyfriend? All About Oliver Dachsel

Mar. 15, 2025

Oliver Dachsel and Ubah Hassan at the Alzheimer’s Association Imagine Benefit on October 25, 2023 in New York City.Photo:Craig Barritt/Getty

Craig Barritt/Getty

Ubah Hassanmay be ready to put her life in the public eye, but she’s notoriously private when it comes to her love life.

TheReal Housewives of New York Citystar first mentioned her boyfriend, Oliver Dachsel, in the later episodes of season 14, simply referring to him as “Mr. Connecticut.” From there, drama ensued as some of her costars spread the word of her private romance and shared that he was from the state on camera.

“He is very private because of his work,” Hassan explained inpart 1 of theRHONYseason 14 reunion, which aired on Oct. 22, 2023, as to why she was so secretive about Dachsel.

She confirmed the two were still dating, and a few days after the episode aired, Hassanstepped out with Dachsel publiclyfor the first time at the 2023 American Ballet Theatre Fall Gala at Lincoln Center in N.Y.C.

He is from Germany

Ubah Hassan and Oliver Dachsel at the American Ballet Theatre’s 2023 Fall Gala on October 24, 2023 in New York.Daniel Zuchnik/WWD/Getty

Daniel Zuchnik/WWD/Getty

Dachsel may now reside in Connecticut, as Hassan revealed onRHONY, but he is originally from Germany. Per hisLinkedIn, the businessman attended WHU - Otto Beisheim School of Management in Germany, where he graduated in 2006.

He also served in the German military services in 2001.

He is an investment banker

Dachsel got his start in the banking industry with Deutsche Bank in their Frankfurt office, moving to London after two years and ultimately N.Y.C. in July 2011, per his LinkedIn.

He switched to Jefferies in August 2016 and has been at the company since, currently serving as their managing director.

They met through mutual friends

Ubah Hassan and Oliver Dachsel at the American Ballet Theatre Fall Gala on October 24, 2023 in New York City.Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty

Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty

After going public with her relationship, Hassan shared with PEOPLE at the American Ballet Theatre Fall Gala in October 2023 a bit more about how the two met.

Hassan mentioned that they’d been dating for “over a year” after meeting “through friends.”

“I want to say things like, ‘We met on Tinder or Bumble,’ but not really,” she joked.

Hassan wanted to keep their relationship private

Ubah Hassan at the 25th Anniversary Angel Ball held at Cipriani Wall Street on October 23, 2023 in New York.Daniel Zuchnik/Variety/Getty

Daniel Zuchnik/Variety/Getty

Hassan first mentioned Dachsel inepisode 13 ofRHONYafter her costarSai De Silva’shusband David Craig questioned why Hassan was single.

“I’m good,” Hassan whispered to De Silva, showing her pictures of her then-new man.

“Since David is so curious, I’m going to show his wife what is going on in my iPhone,” Hassan said in a confessional. “It’s very delicious.”

She elaborated that she was keeping her relationship secret from the other women because it was “very new” and she didn’t “want anyone else’s energy.” Hassan said, “I just want to make decisions for myself, and Sai can keep a secret.”

De Silva, however, did not keep it a secret and she soon told castmatesErin LichyandBrynn Whitfieldabout Hassan’s new man, sharing during a “circle of trust” moment in an off-camera dinner that he was from Connecticut.

AtWhitfield’s birthday party in the following episode, chaos ensued when Hassan picked up a call from her boyfriend, and Whitfield shouted from across the room, “Hey Ubah, I heard you got a man in Connecticut.”

Hassan was furious and whispered to her, “If you mention Connecticut, I’m going to circumcise you.”

“The whole thing was confidential so she must have heard from Sai,” Hassan said in a confessional. “But for Brynn to mention a part of that I’m just like b—- you don’t deserve a birthday, we should take you to McDonald’s drive-thru, and no fries for you.”

During the reunion, Hassan elaborated that it was Dachsel who wanted to keep their relationship private because of his job and she wanted to be respectful of his wishes.

Hassan’s castmates approve of him

Ubah Hassan, Sai De Silva, Erin Lichy, Brynn Whitfield, Jessel Taank, and Jenna Lyons at The Real Housewives of New York Premiere Celebration on July 12, 2023 in New York City.Bryan Bedder/Getty

Bryan Bedder/Getty

Though Dachsel’s introduction to the group may have been full of drama, Hassan’s castmates had nothing but kind words to share about him at the reunion where Hassan confirmed they were “still going strong.”

“He’s the most lovely man, really, and very handsome,” Lichy then added, while De Silva said, “He is so in love with her. He has sparkles in his eyes.”

“He is the perfect counterpart to Ubah,” fellow costarJessel Tankadded. “He is patient, he is loving. He kind of just looks at her like she is art in a museum.”

They made their red carpet debut in October 2023

Just days after the reunion episode aired, Hassan and Dachsel stepped out for the first time together at the 2023 American Ballet Theatre Fall Gala.

“It’s our first time on the carpet together,” Hassan told PEOPLE at the event, where she referred to Dachsel as “my boyfriend” and shared more about their mutual appreciation for the ballet. “We love it, it’s very beautiful. We just saw [George Balanchine’s]Jewelslast month, it was my birthday present.”

The pair held hands while on the carpet and cozied up for photos, with photographers even snapping a few shots of them gazing romantically into each other’s eyes and laughing together.

The following day, they stepped out again, this time for the Alzheimer’s Association Imagine Benefit at Jazz, also at Lincoln Center.

They’re planning for the future together

Hassan opened up about her hopes for the future with Daschel during the season 15 premiere ofThe Real Housewives of New York City,which airedin early October 2024. While at lunch, she told costars Lichy andRebecca Minkoffthat she wanted “to start trying” to get pregnant toward the end of the year.

That’s not their only plan for the future, though. In January 2025, Hassan toldParadethat the cliché “you know when you know” about being ready for marriage came true for her and Daschel, who she said she’s “so comfortable” with.

“I don’t even care about the diamonds. I have diamonds, like, I don’t need diamonds. I have him,” she said, though she did add that she hopes her future engagement ring features yellow stones, which she loves “just because they’re rare.”

source: people.com