Woman Is Upset at Her Mother-In-Law for Visiting Her Daughter at Daycare Without ‘Asking’ Beforehand

Mar. 15, 2025

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The 29-year-old detailed her story in a thread on Reddit’s popular“Am I the A——”forum on Wednesday, Feb 5, explaining that her mother-in-law visits her 5-month-old daughter’s daycare “at least once a week” and “spends 30 minutes to an hour just playing with my daughter.”

The woman also said that — as aformer daycare workerherself — she “would have hated having someone just come in and spend time with a child because now not only do they have infants to watch, but now they have to work around a fully grown woman and make sure that she isn’t taking pictures/videos of other babies as well.”

The Redditor then admitted that she thinks her “biggest issue,” however, is “that some days she gets to spend more awake time with my daughter than I do.”

“I know that’s a horrible reason to be frustrated with someone," she continued, “but it is what it is.”

The woman said her mother-in-law comes to their house several hours a week “so it’s not like daycare is the only time she gets to see [her grandchild].”

“Would I be the a—— if I asked her to stop visiting daycare so frequently?" she wrote, asking for opinions.

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The general consensus among Reddit users was that the woman needs to take time for self-reflection and perhaps a shift in perspective.

“This whole thingis jealousy. Plain and simple,” one person wrote. “Why aren’t you able to go and see your daughter at the daycare when you want to? Your husband has a say too—it’s his child as well. Are you seriously trying to gatekeep your daughter from a grandparent that is putting in the effort?”

Another commenter took a more gentle approach, noting that while the OP [original poster] may be in the wrong, her thoughts and feelings are also totally natural.

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“We all have intrusive thoughts. It’s our behavior that defines us,” the person wrote. “Op came here asking for other opinions because she probably knew deep down it wouldn’t be right to ask her [mother-in-law] not to visit. She just needed to vent. Totally natural and normal.”

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